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Pratlaw Ga Essay: JUDGES DO NOT LIKE A SOCRATIC EXERCISE...

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...when it comes to documents. Over the past 23 years I have come to appreciate the fact that Judges as a whole do not like being given documents with highlighted passages or handwritten notes beside the part of the document you think is important. Doing that is really close to a demand that the Court become a participant in the blind men and the elephant philosophical exercise about the scope of perception: The Blind Men And The Elephant Fable and they do not like the Socratic Method to the extreme of banality, i.e., rain is rain you cannot assert you do not understand it until someone explains it to you and you "feel" it. What all this means in plain English is: (a) The Judge controls his or her court room and no one else has any right to control it. So make a copy of any document you feel the urge to write on, so your lawyer can present the 'clean' one to the Judge and draw the Judge's attention to the passage you have highlighted in your 'dirty

"The Best Money I Ever Spent"

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The variable that often imprisons parties in a dead-end relationship is a child or children. Children, however, are egocentric and are never going to grow into healthy adulthood when their upbringing is centered around a false, dead relationship from which they learn by observation that they never, ever, want to get involved with someone because it will be like being Mom or Dad. They need to be told once that the divorce was never about them but about Mom and Dad being at a dead end in their relationship. They will remember that and it will be the defining memory of the divorce: it wasn't about them. Children absorb everything they see, feel and experience: every nuance, gesture, sarcastic gesture, all the negative, unhappiness and bad going on between their Mom and their Dad. Sometimes the expense of ending a dead marriage is the best money ever spent not just for the liberation of the spouses but for the sunshine it can bring to a child in the middle of the "dead-zone".